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Take the Pressure Off Yourself- Obtain Wise Counsel from Others

Despair is a lonely feeling.  Often the road to abject despair is paved with a singular weighty two- part thought: That I should be able to solve ALL my problems quickly and efficiently and that I should be able to discover ALL the answers to my salient questions.

When you find yourself thinking this way STOP! You can’t navigate life WITHOUT HELP FROM OTHERS.  If you were the only person on the planet, then you could think the above thoughts. BUT you don’t inhabit the planet by yourself.  The tumult of living life causes you to forget a primal fact: For years, you received answers to your questions, whether they were large or small, significant or insignificant  from your parents, family or friends. You forget, that at times, it was comforting to lean upon the wisdom of others. However, when you are thrust into adulthood, the mind has you WRONGLY BELIEVING that surviving and thriving requires one to become omnipotent and omniscient. This is just the ego acting up and acting out. Humility is the ability to admit you  just don’t have all the answers.

From time to time, it is rather important to take stock of where you are and where you want to go. This is the proverbial map that is important to use and is written about so often. You can’t get to where you want to go until you know where your starting point is. Once these coordinates are known, only then can you begin to examine the route you are taking.  This examination may lead you to the conclusion that going straight is the right direction. Or, you may determine that a detour is required. You may even conclude that you just don’t know which way to go. And that is just as OK. Giving yourself permission NOT TO KNOW is rather significant-AND you can find out the answer rather easily by ASKING FOR HELP.

Equally as significant is the fact that things don’t happen when you want them to happen. Outcomes happen at unexpected times for a variety of reasons. Sometimes the desired outcome never happens because  faulty assumptions caused you to jump to inappropriate conclusions. NAVIGATING LIFE WITH  LESSONS LEARNED (expensive at times) CAN BE LIFE’S GREATEST GIFT OF ALL. A lesson experienced brings you one step closer toward living a smarter life.

Discovering that it is prudent to ask for “directions” when you have lost your way is significant.  A great day approaches as you correct your coordinates. Your life journey could finally be headed in the right direction. Despair will morph into feelings of joy as you discover, WITH THE HELP OF OTHERS, that additional options and answers can also be explored by others who possess more knowledge than you.

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